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Mature Man's Sexuality As a man ages, his testosterone levels gradually drop starting at around the age of thirty. By age 80 he generally produces one-third the amount than he did at twenty. This lowered level of testosterone can lead to a waning libido. Typically the focus on lost sexual desire has been made on women and menopause. Little is said about a man’s lack of sexual response and what we can do to keep him sexually and intimately interested in us as he ages. Aging and hormonal changes do not necessarily lead to the death of your sex life. Our sexuality is not isolated to the percentage of sex hormones produced by our glands. We must maintain intimacy with our loved one if we desire to keep the fire in the bedroom as we grow older. Remember that it takes two to tango! Open communication and the willingness to make the effort to stay close is what will ultimately lead to maintaining a healthy sex life in our golden years. Patience, timing and loving care are essential to maintaining an intimate relationship with our older man. The changes in sexual response as a man ages linked to waning testosterone levels usually show themselves in these ways; It may take him longer to become erect; More variation may be needed in arousal techniques to achieve an erection; It may take him longer to ejaculate; Ejaculations may be less forceful or explosive; The time between ejaculations may last longer; His erection becomes flaccid sooner after he ejaculates What measures can I take to counter the effects of aging on my man's libido? How can I revitalize a sagging sex life? You are given some unique opportunities of gaining a more aggressive role in the bedroom. The lack of intensity of his sexual urges is not necessarily a bad thing for him or his partner. This gives you both an opportunity to play, experiment and become more intimate than ever before. He is less likely to be primarily focused on a screaming orgasm and more willing to take his time at being the sensitive and tender lover. Now that he is less focused on himself he can take more time with foreplay and is less hurried to climax Be sure to open communications with him about the changes taking place. Let him know that there is no need to feel embarrassed. He may become sensitive to the fact that he is experiencing these changes and pull away from you sexually. Some partners may take this withdrawal personally if they don't understand what is happening with their man. Talk to him. If he is having difficulty getting an erection, you can help him to do so. He may just require stronger stimulation. When he was younger he most likely got hard at just the thought of you naked and waiting. Now you may need to take measures into your own hands! Keep your lube handy and massage his genitals a little more forcefully. Take his semi erect penis into your mouth and titillate the head with your tongue. Encourage him to manipulate and build his erection through masturbation. Let him know that it excites you to see him growing Boredom may play a role in his disinterest. Don’t take it too personally and pull away yourself, try to change your routine. This book is chock full of ideas to spark it up Give yourselves more time for foreplay and become creative in the bedroom. Reassure him that he is still vital and alive. Another factor that may surface is how sexually active you have been in the past. Remember that is important to use it or lose it! So keep this in mind if you are still young and vital. Everyone grows older. Keep your FirePower alive by making love frequently! You don’t want time and age to take it’s toll until one day you wake up and wonder, “where has all the love gone? Because of puritan ideas of sex that society has put upon us, many older men may not be as opened to oral sex, foreplay or other activities. His narrow view that penetration is the only acceptable form of sex can limit his intimacy with his partner. If he cannot maintain a full erection, he may be embarrassed and turn away from sex altogether because of his ego and lack of communication and information. It’s up to you to gently nudge him in the right direction. You know him best. Suggest other forms for loving one another. Massage one another. Touch, stroke and hold one another without any wild expectations and let him know you do not have those expectations. Gently introduce him to oral sex, toys or simply spend more time with him before you even think about getting to the bedroom activities. Romance him, nurture him before hand. Open communication and you may be pleasantly surprised at his reaction. Tell him that you are not as concerned with the sex act in itself, but that you miss the closeness and connection of touching and caressing. Chances are he misses that too, but is too afraid of his “failing” penis to get close with you. You will most likely have to be the initiator in conversation about this subject. Otherwise you will both lose out. Many people have tried Viagra and are happy with its results. It may be worth a try. Have your doctor check him out to see if it is a suitable medication for him. There are some restrictions as to who can use Viagra, so always check with your doctor first, no bumming a friend’s prescription! A study in the British Medical Journal; 'Sex and Death, Are They Related?' Davey Smith, G. et al. (1997) showed that Scientists have discovered that men who have frequent orgasms live longer. Researchers found that men who have sex at least twice a week have a 50% lower risk of death than men who have sex once a month. Impotence Causing Medications: American Family Physician has reported that one out of four cases of impotence were the result of drug side effects. If your mate is having erectile problems check with his doctor to find out if his medications are the cause. Preventative Measures Zinc The male sex organs use more zinc than any other part of the body. Due to zinc deficiency in the foods we eat we often are not getting what we need. Many men with impotency problems are found to be deficient in this mineral. Zinc also stops the pituitary gland from making prolactin, according to research done by Alan Judd at the University of Virginia Medical School. Prolactin stops testosterone production. The body absorbs zinc citrate easier so I would choose that. Loss of testosterone is also responsible for the degeneration of muscle tissue, why men and women tend to lose muscle mass. Lycopene The latest findings in a Harvard research study of 47,000 U.S. male health care professionals released in March of 2002 show that men who regularly eat tomato products reduce their risk of prostate cancer. The study was made over five years and showed that men who ate two or more servings a week of tomato sauce reduced their risk of developing prostate cancer by 35%. Lycopene is the natural red pigment, which gives tomatoes their red color. Cooked concentrated forms of tomatoes were shown to have the most significance because of the concentrated amounts of lycopene in sauces and soups as opposed to eating the fresh tomatoes. Researchers noted that components other than lycopene may be responsible for the dramatic reduction in prostate cancer. Whatever it is I suggest preparing gaspacho, pasta sauce, and tomato soup several times a week. Your man’s prostate will thank you! Saw Palmetto The Saw Palmetto is an indigenous palm of the South Eastern United States. Native Americans used it for food, textiles and medicines. Saw palmetto is an herb that has been shown in clinical studies to have beneficial effects in reducing symptoms of benign prostatic hyperplasia. (prostate enlargement). 50% of men over fifty will have prostate complaints. The American Cancer Society states that this year almost 200,000 men in the United States will be newly diagnosed with prostate cancer and 40,000 men will die from it. Early diagnosis and treatment can help in greatly reducing death from prostate cancer. The American Cancer Society recommends that men should have a PSA (prostate-specific antigen) test each year starting at the age of 50. Prevention Starts Today Even if your partner is 20, 33 or 63 the time to think about this is now. The effects of aging on men will affect their sexuality as well. It’s in your best interest to prepare now for a long and rewarding relationship together. Diet and exercise now, may help you to avoid problems in the bedroom later. We now know that one in three male sexual dysfunction are caused by physical problems. The effects of aging can include damage to arteries that supply blood to the penis, which may cause impotence. Aging can also damage the valves
of the veins that hold the blood in the erect penis. Also hormonal changes
can lower sex drive and genital sensation. There are different treatments
and you should consult a health professional if he has erectile
difficulty. Help him to
eat healthier. Introduce more whole grains and fiber. This will
help keep fat and cholesterol out of his arteries. Include; beans, raw
vegetables and fruit. Cut back on meat and foods high in saturated fat. A man works every day slaving away
in an office and it's hard to jump up to run around the block when he gets
home. But a sedentary lifestyle can be bad news in the bedroom! Start
slow. Don't scare him away. Get the bicycles out, beg him to go for a ride
with you. You both will feel better with a little walk around the block.
Even jumping jacks in the living Most of all slow down your
lovemaking. |
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