By Debora Myers

Affirming a desire rather than whining for what you want is the first step in taking an active roll in creating the love you want in your life. To affirm means to declare positively or firmly. When working with the general law of attraction remember that what we project into the universe is what we usually draw to us. Avoid negative thought patterns that can send you into a downward spiral. The hungry, needy energy is not what we want to send out when seeking love and fulfillment. Throughout time people have used different means to affirm their desires into reality through ritual and prayer.

"An affirmation is a short positive statement that is repeated over and over again. Negative or undesired thoughts are kept at bay. Unity of body and mind is encouraged. Affirmations are quite popular with some people. You can make up your own or try a standard one like "God Is Love" or "We Are One" or "I Am You" or You Are Me" or Love Is All Around Us" or "We Are Love."… "Play with the affirmation "You love me" while selfloving. You may find that the "you" is actually you, that what you really need is not love from someone else but love from the self. The love you get is the love you choose to let in." Write David and Ellen Ramsdale in their book Sexual Energy Ecstasy (Peak Skill Publishing, 1985).

This is a positive first step one can take to attract love. Learn to love yourself and you will draw love to you in turn. When using positive affirmations be very clear and concise in your intent. Use positive wording when affirming what it is you want. Instead of saying or thinking "I don't want to be lonely anymore." Say "I affirm to attract a compatible loving partner…into my life at this time".

Throughout prehistoric and historic times people have used prayer and ritual to draw and affirm love into their lives. Affirmations have been used throughout the ages to draw and keep the hearts strongest desire for true love. This is part of the work that you can do to ready yourself for the love you desire. The next step is to actively make the effort needed to be in a space where you can meet people and prospective partners.

A good place to start is to join singles groups and make friends in social settings. Online dating services offer you a chance to anonymously sift through prospective mates conveniently and at your own pace. Online dating services are quickly becoming a popular way to make new friends because they don't consume your precious time with blind dates, etc. The friends you make may not themselves be the one you're looking for but may be able to introduce you to that someone special.

The best thing you can do is to feel confident in yourself. Confidence will pull people to you. So do what you need to do to work on raising your self- esteem while at the same time affirming and visualizing exactly what it is you want, but be careful what you ask for, you may just get it!