Debora Myers is editor and co-founder of Ladyfire.com. 

She is a graduate of the Self Heal School of Herbal Medicine in San Diego, CA. She has also studied extensively with Traditional American Indian Healers and been actively involved in the civil rights and environmental movements.

Debora loves to sing and also create collage shrines of recycled and collected items for fun and her own bliss and therapy.

Debora is a life long student, constantly updating and educating herself concerning the holistic healing arts and sacred sexuality and the arts.

FIREPOWER
Love Making Magic ©
The Book
By Debora Jo Myers
 

By Debora Jo Myers/Sunflower

Have you ever noticed that when it rains, it pours? You may go for 18 months without a date. When you finally have a date with someone and are enjoying your new friend and continue dating, all of a sudden 4 other people are interested in you? Is it the confidence, psychic signals, body language or pheromones? I'm thinking a combination of all of the above. However we are doing this communication is for the scientists to figure out and debate, but we can do our own fun research in human behavior and maybe increase our socializing skills.

Researchers are still looking for human pheromones and the debate has continued for over 50 years. Some researchers have found that the sweat from menstruating humans can trigger menstruation in other women, suggesting that there are chemical messages being sent and received between humans via the sense of smell.

Some folks may have noticed that their thoughts and energy are picked up by other folks and vice versa. The point is there is no real way of proving either theory YET. But I can share what I and countless others, and most likely you have observed in human behaviors. Do a little experimenting with me.

Ok, if it's been a while since you've "gotten any" and you “want some”, try this;

Sexperiment: It’s what you’re putting out there into the universe.

Focus on the positive aspects of yourself. If you have to, make a list of all the wonderful things about yourself. Then start by building on those aspects. Say you’re good with old folks. Take that aspect a bit further and find an elder to hang out with and build on your humanitarian skills. It will make you feel good contributing to your human family.

This is what you do to get your love life rolling too. Instead of focusing on the lack of sexual expression being without a lover, focus on yourself. Take matters into your own hands and pleasure yourself. Really build up the energy. Use all of your imagination and visualize what, who, where you want, how you want it. Add details to the picture in your mind’s eye. Make yourself feel good. The key is to put out fullness and passion without the feeling of lack. Only put out the passion and Love!!! This sexual energy you are building will be sent out into the universal web and the pheromones, energy, thoughts, etc., will be a calling card. Now, sometimes, life isn’t always about pleasure, sometimes it’s about learning certain lessons we can only learn through the hard way, so let go of attachment to outcomes… be open to the lessons, and open to being in the present, while maintaining the feeling of what it is you want as a given. Just feel it, and it will manifest.

To make this more interesting and more human, I’m going to divulge a little tidbit concerning my sex life. At this point, it’s been about 18 months since I’ve had any sex, (besides with myself, lol) and it’s been about three and a half years since I’ve had great lovemaking! Now, you may be asking yourself, what’s up with Debora Jo?

Well, if you read this story; My Champions, it will clue you in. I needed time to re-evaluate and heal myself after all that drama. For almost two years now, I was in the back-off-buster mode! But I feel I've reached a turning point while at the Beloved Festival. There is so much love and trust there that my barriers were broken down and my heart has opened once again! Now, I’m feeling a lot better, rejuvenated and ready to try some, loving, hot, sexual unions. I’m in a new town, and needless to say, I’m rather picky after my previous experiences, so let’s sexperiment together, shall we? Share your own experiences by emailing me so I can add it to my follow up article… to see the results of the ultimate sexperiment.

I'm in the mode to attract the lover that I want. I am being specific about what I draw to me, by using my thoughts and feelings in a positive way. I am being loving and kind to myself, as I would want my lover to be with me. I am creating a space for him by clearing my anger concerning the past experiences that didn't go so well, and letting my heart open once again to that soft, vulnerable, receiving mode. I am passion and love. I know, energetically, that it is the energy I'm putting forth, that will draw him too me. I'm being specific without the attachment.

Ok, I’m feeling good, hot, happy, in love with life! Are you? You are if you want to be! Let’s do this!